I just published my first novel, and I'm having all the apprehensive thoughts other authors have warned about—potential negative reviews being one of them. I've read Chris McMullen's advice in Volume 2 of How to Self-Publish a Book on Amazon.com, and looked at advice on various social media author pages. But I keep thinking about a book I often recommended to my consulting clients who had issues about accepting criticism. Dr. David Burns' Feeling Good is still popular after all these years.
A Healthy Way to Process Criticism
Burns models three ways to process critical comments, from unhealthy to healthy. Let's pretend that someone has just commented negatively on a book that you've spent years developing. Or, worse yet, the child you raised. How do you respond?
As David Burns suggests, we need to hone techniques to stop negative thoughts as soon as they come. Use the healthy technique. Use feedback to continue to develop your own critical skills.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, David D. Burns, M.D. (Harper, New York, 2009)